HOW I AM BUILDING MY SELF WORTH AND HOW TO BUILD YOURS AS WELL

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As a child, I was not one of the cool kids at school. I didn't play sports nor walk with a swagger. Instead, I was one of the goofy musical club ones (like the characters in Glee).  Things didn't change when I got to the university and I often worried about not being "cool enough".
Over the years, I have learned a few things about becoming my own person and building my self-worth. 

Self-worth is about the value you put on yourself. It's not always about your job or how much money you earn. Rather it's about how you are leading your life and being aware of the reasons for your actions. It's being honest with yourself and working to improve in areas where you might be deficient.

At some point in my life,  I thought my worth was tied to how much I could make other people think of me as a good person. But that made me secretly bitter because I kept enduring people's trespasses. 
Things changed when I started to pay more attention to myself by exploring my interests and hobbies. 

The question to ask is, what does a full life look like for you? 
For me, it's understanding our shared humanity, appreciating nature, engaging people respectfully, and learning about life in general. 
The only way to build your self worth is by becoming more of yourself

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Logically, I know that you can't build your worth on external things like how you look, how much money you make, or how valuable you think you are to others. You don't have absolute control over those things. However, you control the direction of your life and how much of life you want to experience. Build on that!


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