2020 IS COMING TO AN END, ITS TIME TO TAKE STOCK

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The light bulb moment for me this year was realizing that I needed to work on my self-esteem. This realization actually came from wanting to blog about everything I did wrong this year. 

And at that moment,  I was like, "wait a minute. Why am I always self-reflecting on the negative?"

So, as a step in the right direction, I'm flipping that mindset over and writing about all the things I did right year-round. 

1. I confronted one of my biggest fears: 

I took an exam I was afraid to take. 16 years ago, I took a similar exam and I failed- and that failure marked me because I felt that I had given my best efforts. This time around I went above and beyond and I'm happy I passed.

2. I stuck to being a consistent blogger.  This year, I've written 51 articles on this blog. This one makes 52 by the way. This is more than twice everything I had written on this blog before 2020. Can you imagine! 

3. I lost weight. This is almost happening by chance but I noticed that by eating fewer groundnuts throughout the day,  I am able to drop weight little by little. 

4. I was a lot more vulnerable this year. Sometimes I put myself in situations where I had more to lose than to gain, but what matters more to me is that I put myself out there. 

More often than not, I chose courage over fear. Whether it was by volunteering in a health outreach in a remote village or getting on a canoe to cater to underserved communities in Lagos. Even spending money to advance my career took a lot of courage. 

5. I tried more often than not to be my authentic self. I showed off more of who I am on social media, to my friends, to my love interests. This year I was more interested in people knowing me. I was more expressive. 

6. I did my job to the best of my abilities. One of the things I learned from being mentored by Mrs. Awosika  (bragging right, I'm not sorry, lol) is to see the value in everything that I do.  I feel lucky to have my job but I've also come to understand that I'm offering value to my company.

I'm hoping for a brighter 2021. May God keep all of us till then. Cheers. 



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