BLOOM AND GROW

I don't really like motivational speakers. They sometimes come across as disingenuine. Just my bias. I guess not all motivational speakers are like this. I mean, I think Mel Robbins and Toni Robbins are great (No, they are not a couple) but I also think that the self-help space is filled with so many "aspire-to-Inspire-to-Perspire" folks.  I mean people who just put words together to gas you up for nothing!  Regardless, I believe in self-development and I blog about this field based on the knowledge I have gained over the years and my own lived experience. But I don't want you to think that my life is perfect because of the things you read on my blog. I'm a work in progress.  This article is a peek into my personal life. So you know some of the things I'm struggling with and the steps I am taking to overcome them.  1. Fear of being alone.  I use the word, "alone" just because "abandoned" is such a strong word. I grew up having best friends

When it comes to learning, I think  audio-visuals are just as important as print media. I use Youtube mainly for entertainment but I know it's also a fantastic platform for learning. Here are my five go-to Youtube channels for all things relating to personal development  1. School of Life: This channel shares content bordering on maturing emotionally, developing relationships, dealing with anxiety issues, and so on.  It's basically cartoon illustrated content with a voice-over. Also, what's being shared is so insightful that I'm sure it's based on a lot of literature research.  2. Matt D'Avella:   Actually, in a world where so many motivational speakers tell us, "you just have to do it...remember why you started... (rolls eyes). It's always refreshing to find someone who just says calm down.  I love Matt's content because it is witty and relatable. He focuses on minimalism and uses that to teach important lessons on work, family, and lifestyle.  3.

  photo credit: Instagram: @opeyemii_ 1.   You have time to self reflect Time for personal reflection is very important. That is, you actively take stock of your goals and decide the next steps to take in order to push yourself forward.  Having time for yourself also means being disciplined about your goals.  2.  You have a positive mental picture of your future. You know you are going to make it in life. At the moment, you may be far away from your goals, but you know it’s going to be OK eventually. Your perception of your future will influence the choices you make in the present.  3. You have the right value system . Honesty, trust, integrity, fairness, kindness, and tolerance are a few of the values you hold with high regard. There is a direct correlation between your value system and the choices you make.  You can’t just say you act with integrity when your actions say otherwise. Again, your choices have to align with your values otherwise, you will start to feel li

Oprah is someone I consider to have an awakened spirit. I listen to her a lot of the times and I believe she's pretty deep. Today I watched the finale of the Oprah Winfrey Show again eight years after It first aired, and all I can say is that she has become more of who she was back then. I mean that she has been able to use her new platform to further her work on human spiritual and emotional development through TV shows and Dramas like Greenleaf and Supersoul sessions. The lessons here are about the choice she made to end a succesful show after 25 years. 1. Know When You are Ready to Move. In life you have to move. And I know change is hard because every time I have had to switch jobs, I have gone through hell. It always feels like I am betraying somebody. However, change is needed for growth.  2. You Have to Give Up the Old to Accommodate the New. This is law actually. Again if you don't try new things, you will be stuck with what you have. Be willing to le

Let’s start your week off with these quotes from some of the world’s most successful people. Enjoy.  1. Jeff Bezos on Work Hard: First off, I like the fact that Jeff Bezos keeps fit.   I come across the word “healthy-billionaire” a lot on Instagram (it’s one of the many hashtags used by fitness influencers) but I think Jeff Bezos exemplifies the word. He is the founder and CEO of Amazon.com, Inc. and the world’s richest man (according to Forbes). On Hard work, Jeff says, “Be proud, not of your gifts, but of your hard work and choices.” According to Bezos, “you can’t really be proud of your gifts because they were given to you. You can be grateful for them and thankful for them. But your choices; you choose to work hard…those are choices you could be proud of.” 2.         Tom Ford on Improvement. Well, if you do not know anything about Tom ford, at least know that he is the guy, Nigerian Oil tycoon, Femi Odetola tags in all his Instagram posts.   Without sounding cli

It was Lisa Nichols who said that "your life will change in needlepoint movements." What this means, in my opinion, is that there is really no such thing as an overnight success. We are an accumulation of our daily practices. There's a nursery rhyme from when I was little which comes to mind often these days: "Little drops of water. Little grains of sand make a mighty ocean and pleasant land." The other part of that rhyme actually notes the power of time: "Thus the little minutes, humble though they be; make the mighty ages of eternity. " The point is that numbers matter in the grand scheme of things; specifically the number of days you spend working on your craft.  Your life will not change because you went to one seminar. Or because you ran one 10 km race or worked out at the gym for 2 hours. Little things done consistently over time can bring about huge results. When I look at my life: working towards becoming a content creator, trying

Hello, I believe journaling is a brilliant way to articulate your thoughts. It is good for improving your problem-solving abilities. Everyday life teaches us lessons and I know that if we can articulate those lessons we will be able to lead better lives. Here are a few of the things I learned today. 1. Corruption is a big issue in Nigeria. And it is everywhere, not just in government. In order to deal with corruption, one has to be strategic. Since corruption in Nigeria is so perverse, you can be overwhelmed. I don't know how to fight corruption yet. But what I know for sure is that it might be dumb to wage war on corruption without the knowledge about how to defeat it. you will be crushed. 2. You should not just consume social media, you should also contribute to the market. Be a content producer. 3. I listened to Oprah on my commute to work this morning. I think listening to a podcast or an audiobook sets you up for a better day. 4. Don't let your lack of faith